tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5437449174138527513.post9130623190957749655..comments2023-08-13T09:59:34.948-05:00Comments on Clio: Six WeeksKarenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08904312596252519993noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5437449174138527513.post-48858100979894410402008-10-31T15:34:00.000-05:002008-10-31T15:34:00.000-05:00Two quick things:- Don't stress over the best util...Two quick things:<BR/>- Don't stress over the best utilization of every moment of her awake time. At this age, you aren't going to increase her IQ dramatically by forcing her to look at a specially colored toy. Rather than viewing this time as a chance to stimulate her, use it to just be with her...however that turns out. <BR/>- Don't take it personally when she won't look at you. When she is secure in your arms, it makes sense she will take the opportunity to check out the unfamiliar things around her...because she knows she is safe and in your arms. <BR/>My husband used to also say that babies see angels. This was his way of describing our son's way of looking past us, over our shoulders or off into a random corner, rather than looking at us. <BR/><BR/>It all changes over time and simply the time you are spending with her now is what will pay off in the next few months. Don't doubt your bond with her. Your anxiety will impact her so keep your calm and stay focused on how much you adore her. She will feel that and all will be good. :)<BR/><BR/>And yes...you are apparently normal...or else you and I are both wierdos. ;)GiraffeMSWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10980602572836649037noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5437449174138527513.post-83964929029458704442008-10-31T10:50:00.000-05:002008-10-31T10:50:00.000-05:00I don't have a baby yet, but everything you're tal...I don't have a baby yet, but everything you're talking about sounds totally normal to me! I think everyone, adoptive parents or not, have those moments. <BR/><BR/>I don't have any doubt you are bonded to her, and she's bonded to you! I wish I could give you more encouragement and experience, but I don't have that yet to offer. Just know that it sounds like you're doing a great job, and Evie loves you a lot.<BR/><BR/>Thinking of you!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12383136325211182954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5437449174138527513.post-60657401395377230702008-10-31T10:19:00.000-05:002008-10-31T10:19:00.000-05:00the mommy guilt starts early, doesn't it? I feel m...the mommy guilt starts early, doesn't it? I feel many of the things you've felt, especially that the baby doesn't like me that much. That's a devastating thought. My little guy smiled at my husband first and can't get enough of my MIL's face! But me? Not so much. I think he's taking me for granted! Maybe mommies just blend in. I think this will change -- at least I'm hoping it will!Intrepidgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09692197952283709205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5437449174138527513.post-56958566613558481082008-10-31T09:43:00.000-05:002008-10-31T09:43:00.000-05:00Well, first off----*big hugs!* Your insecurities s...Well, first off----*big hugs!* <BR/><BR/>Your insecurities sound sooooo familiar! Hopefully that will give you some reassurance in itself. The most familiar notes were those about digital guilt, and the pacifier guilt. I feel crappy about those, too, because I feel like I should be wearing Snippet in the sling more during his quiet times. But, honestly, I get a little jealous of my own body sometimes. I feel like he's always on me in some form or another, so if I can snag a half hour of personal space while he's drowsy, I'm going to do it. I even try to upgrade it to "self-preservation" status when I'm feeling particularly crummy about it, because there are days that it actually feels like just that. Those few minutes of blogging, or emailing, etc. are like emotional and spiritual recharging, which makes for a happier mommy later on. Same thing with the pacifier guilt---it buys you a few precious minutes to feel more pulled together, and that makes for a better day altogether. <BR/><BR/>Thinking of you, darlindeannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05208971949811803163noreply@blogger.com